Friday, May 27, 2016

Friday Favorites

Henry had his last day of prek-3 yesterday! That went fast! He has grown so much this year! 

Look at that little face! 

 Comparison shot- last day vs. first day. (look at Jonathan's hair growth too! Radiation has nothing on his hair!)

First Day of school this year vs. First day of school last year!
Last day of school 2016 vs. First day of school 2014

Watermelon season...
If I had to pick one food to eat the rest of my life it would be watermelon. Also, how do you cut a watermelon? My sister peels it like this. This was the first time I tried it and it was pretty successful. There's really no good, mess free way to cut a watermelon.

Summer school. I have to come up with a schedule for school work this summer. I'd hate for Lucy to lose all her knowledge over the summer!

She requested this book set. I ordered it this morning, we will be busy reading this summer!


I also amazoned a few workbooks for her. 

And don't forget brother. Henry will be busy learning this summer too. 

If you missed my 1st post in my cancer series you can click here!
It offers 8 tips on helping your friends or family who is in a crisis.

God is bigger than this and Jesus can fix-it. 

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Thursday, May 26, 2016

Weekly Happenings...

School is winding down and we are getting in full summer mode around here! I've gone through 3 watermelons this week! Which gets me excited for summer weather, swimming, grilling, and playing outside until it gets dark! 

So this is what we've been doing this week. 

My dear friend, Linda, brought us dinner on Monday. I love greek food. 
Lands'end was having a sale on Monday and I've been eyeing a couple of swimsuits. My sister, Laura, swears by lands'end because they last and don't peel. Regular price they are expensive but when they are 50% is when I like to buy!

Right Now Lands'end is having 50% off swimsuits and 30% off everything else. With this coupon you can get 25% off your entire order.

I never want to promote materialism but I'd hate for you to miss out on a deal for something you were already going to buy.

 Henry David and I waiting in carpool line! It was splash day and he was so excited to get wet!

 I had a fridge full of leftovers, so, I called in the troops! My kids love when Manna and Aunt Emily come over to play and eat!

 Swim lessons are coming to an end! I love routine but I'm ready for this to be over. Henry has summer swim lessons planned for 2 weeks of fun with a local teacher and Lucy is ready for swim team but doesn't want to join swim team.. so, she is just going to be busy swimming in the pool!

 I also had a lunch with a new group of girls this week but I forgot to take a picture.
Today is the last day of school for this week and then we have a 4 day weekend! Praise the Lord!

I hope you guys are having a fabulous week! Enjoy your memorial day!

God is bigger than this and Jesus can fix-it. 

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Serving a family.

The original title to this was, "Serving your friend who is walking through hell.." or "Serving your friend in need".  The point of this post is to shine a light on what is useful and what is not useful when you are serving someone who has been given a new diagnosis, like cancer. I think these suggestions could apply to anyone in need: new baby, colicky baby, broken leg, herpes, stomach flu, bad day, etc and so on.

My experience is with cancer so that is what I am going to focus on. (and I don't even have cancer, but I know what's been useful to my family during J's diagnosis and treatment)

Here are my tips.

1. We are in this..
In the hospital, my friends visited and prayed over me and all that we were experiencing. I'll never forget what one friend said, "Mary, we are in this with you. We are here for the long run. You will not walk this alone."

That was a blessing. Sometimes when things get hard people tag out. They already have their own circus and they don't need to take on yours. My people didn't tag out. They have walked this journey every step of the way.

2. Don't talk about diagnosis unless it is brought up.
(this doesn't apply to new babies, please goo and ga over new babies)

Chances are if I don't bring up cancer than I'm not thinking about it and I'm just enjoying your company. Don't ask about it. I'll talk about it when I want or am ready. Also, don't ask for an update in front of my kids...

3. Let them know you are thinking about them.
I loved receiving cards, packages, food, and finding little gifts left on my porch. I have friends who send me text randomly- Hey, I'm praying for you. Hey, you are on my heart today. Or a email with a story. I love that I have some faithful card senders, it means the world to me that they are still thinking of this. Our cancer journey isn't brand new but those people show us- Hey, you are still dealing with this, we are still praying, we love you.

I have given myself grace over thank you notes... These sweet people keep sending us notes, gifts- without me even thanking them.. (I do try to send a text- thank you! but I haven't mailed a card.) (If you are waiting on a thank you note from me, keep waiting. My husband has brain cancer and I'm raising two babies- I've given myself grace and so should you.) (I just got sassy on you)(and i'm really thankful! thank you, thank you, thank you, to all of those who keep doing this!)

4. Meals.
Meals during treatment were the biggest blessing! I couldn't do another thing and I was having the hardest time caring for all my people. Meals took a load off!

Our church still provides meals during chemo week and they are still a blessing! I also get random text saying- Hey, I made two lasagnas. I'm dropping one off by your house... - I like being bossed into food.

*Tip*Don't ask me what I want to eat... I don't know. I don't know what my name is today.. I don't want to eat. Food is just something that I eat to survive so that I can take care of my babies. Bring something that your family loves to eat.

5. Services. 
Jonathan is the man of the house. He takes care of man things. When he wasn't able to do some of his regular tasks people stepped in! Our Adult Fellowship class came by every week to mow our yard during radiation treatment. That was wonderful. If they didn't do it, I would have to get out there with the mower. (for some reason our mower is not self-propelled and it is really hard to push! I have to get a run and start when I do mow. Also, I've only mowed the yard 3 times in the 9 years that I've been married.)

My friends cleaned the house while we were in the hospital and put away all my laundry. Since then my mom hired a lady to clean the house to take something off my plate.

Go do their laundry or put it away. I had a bad day and my friends showed up with dinner and helped me fold and put away all my laundry.

6. Be funny. 
I love to laugh and I love when people make me laugh.

7. Pray.
This is the biggest. Just pray for them. God is bigger than this, hand it over to him in constant prayer.

8. This is a strange but noteworthy tip... I'm a little scared to share it....
If you aren't going to help them then leave them alone. 

This may sound mean but people in crisis don't need additional stress or noise added to their life. I actually prayed this... and God answered.

Those are my tips on how to serve a family in need.
I hope you can apply them to someone in your life. 
(Not that I hope that you have a person in your life that is diagnosed with cancer. I pray you can apply these to new born babies and their mamas. )

God is bigger than this and Jesus can fix-it. 

Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Show & Tell: Favorite Vacations.

Today, I'm linking up with Momfessional for a little show and tell fun! Our topic for today is What is your favorite vacation!

I can narrow it down to 6...

1. In the first grade my dad had a business trip to Orlando and he took Laura and I along with him for three extra days to explore Disney! It was a special time that made special memories!

2. In the 5th grade my parents planned a two week vacation up the east coast. We started in Birmingham, Al and drove up to Maine and then back, stopping everyday in a new place to explore. My 10 year old self didn't enjoy this as much as I would today but I learned a lot and we covered a lot of country!

3. Our Honeymoon. Jonathan and I spent a week in Anguilla on our honeymoon and it was so magical. I don't have pictures online because 9 years ago we used an actual camera with actual film...

4. Ft. Walton Beach, FL. Our First Family Vacation of Four! I was 6 weeks pregnant with Henry and he made me so sick this trip! But it was so much fun spending a week with Lucy and Jonathan at the Beach. Blog Posts 1, 2, 3, 4, 5.

5. Turks and Caicos Bullington Family Trip.
I love Turks and Caicos. If I could choose a place to go every year I would go there!

6. Disney World!
I loved our trip to Disney World. It's a working vacation but to see the joy on our kids faces was worth it! I actually loved Disney as much as they did...

Disney Recap
 Day 1 Recap
 Animal Kingdom Recap
 Magic Kingdom 1
 Magic Kingdom 2
 Epcot Recap
 Magic Kingdom 3
 Hollywood Studios

Honorable Mention:
Gulf shores with the Cobles
(have you ever wondered what chubby-Mary looks like... beach pics with Cinnamon Poptart)

Degray lake with the Bosts 

RoughCreek, Tx

All of my favorites!

God is bigger than this and Jesus can fix-it.